So as someone who pretty much obsessively stares at dicks on the internet all day, I’m always pleased (and dare I say turned on) when a really cute guy has the balls to show his face and his nads in the same photo. I appreciate a guy who gets to the point right away. Especially if we’re talking about public photos.
That’s why jumped out right away as both a looker and a keeper. He’s a self-described romantic at heart, and he’s really not afraid to put himself out there. His name is Troy and he lives in Vancouver, which is nowhere near me (alas!), but I caught up with him just as he was returning from a visit to the States for Seattle Pride.
Read what Troy had to say in our Man of The Week interview below:
Hey Troy! How was Seattle?
I went to Seattle to join in on some of the Pride festivities, but first and foremost, I went there to see some of my friends whom I have not seen in a couple years. The weather was your typical rainy Seattle weather. I really need to visit more! I like the people who live there. They seem to be more open and fun. Of course, that could be just a case of the “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
You live in Vancouver, a city I really don’t know much about besides that it’s got an amazing public transportation system and the Olympics were there a few years back. Tell us your favorite thing about Vancouver and also your least favorite thing.
My favorite thing about Vancouver is the geographic diversity. You have the mountains in your back yard, and the beach in your front yard. It’s really an amazing, vibrant city. You should come and visit sometime. I’d be happy to be your tour guide!
The thing I don’t like about Vancouver is for some reason the dating scene is, well, let’s just say it’s not as vibrant as the city itself. I know that you have to put yourself out there, which I have, but for some reason, most of the time guys don’t want to date. They just want to hook up. My clock is a-tickin’, ain’t nobody got time for that!
You mention looking for a meaningful, lasting connection, and describes you as a romantic at heart. What type of guy (guys?) are you looking for?
I only said all that stuff on my profile as bait. It’s all lies. (Just kidding!) I would like to find a fellow who is intelligent, funny, good looking (at least in my eyes), sweet, loyal and loving. I know it’s a tall order, but I’m sure he’s out there, maybe juuuuuust around the corner.
You’re openly HIV-positive but undetectable. Can you explain briefly what that means for someone who might want to have sex with you? And do you find yourself having to explain it to strangers very often?
When I was negative, this term “undetectable” confused me at first. I thought it sounded insidious. “Oooh, there’s an HIV virus that is undetectable, and it’s hiding around the corner!” This fear and paranoia stemmed from my lack of education. Undetectable simply means that one’s HIV viral load is less than the machines can detect, which at the moment happens to be 40 parts per million in the blood sample. They have newer machines which can detect the HIV virus down to 20 parts per million, but they aren’t common yet. 40 parts per million is already a VERY SMALL NUMBER. So small that it’s almost (but not quite) zero.
I just want to say that a big hospital in the States finally released the statistics which were known to them for many years. But they are finally making this knowledge public. These statistics are regarding HIV-discordant relationships—where one partner is positive and the other is negative—and the probability of HIV virus transfer to the negative partner.
When the positive guy is undetectable, he does not transfer the virus to his negative partner, even when engaging in regular unprotected sex. And this is in the majority of the cases, and after having been together for several years. Amazing, huh? (!)
How long have you been using ? What’s your single best experience been?
I’ve probably been using MH for about 10 years now. That’s a whole lotta trollin’! I really can’t answer the “best experience” question, as I have had so many experiences in that time span.
I’ve had annoying experiences though, such as when guys post pictures which are 10 years old and 40 pounds lighter, and when I meet them on a date, I take one look, and I say to myself, “Does this person really think I will just go ahead and say ‘yes, it’s OK to misrepresent yourself?” I know that sometimes people get stuck in the past, I understand that. But please put a disclaimer in your profile if you are posting older pictures of yourself! It’s important to not mislead. It just makes people angry. Grrrr.
When I talked to you initially, you seemed like quite the homebody, although you mentioned only recently discovering that you love to cook. What brought that on?
I love my home. But honestly, I used to be so lazy and just order food in most of the time. It was only recently that I got into cooking, because number one, I wanted to make healthier food choices, and number two, I wanted to save money by making my own meals. Now it’s kale salads and grilled meats for me!
You brought up spending time with your dog. Tell me about him! (Or her.)
Brodie is a 6-year-old Silky Terrier x Havanese. He’s the cutest thing, and super-smart. He has so much energy, and always wants to go to the dog park just around the corner from where I live. He’s my son.
Finally, an open-ended question. What would you like the men of the world to know about you that I haven’t asked already?
Wow that’s a sweeping question you have there! I don’t know what to say. I guess these “men of the world” will just have to find out more in person on our first date!
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